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Overview
By analyzing your answers to the Relationship Questionnaire we have created the following Personality Profile. Everyone has a set of subconscious wants and desires that drive their choices and attitudes. By asking you questions about a wide range of emotional issues, this report has established general patterns in your values. Some of the following information may seem inaccurate or incomplete. Remember, that this profile is a snapshot of your personality at a specific moment. It is not intended as an in-depth analysis of your complete being, but as a tool to aid in self-discovery.
- You may demonstrate positive possessiveness by developing strong attachments; however, you will not be overly involved as some others tend to do.
- You tend to dislike sudden or abrupt changes. You prefer things the way they are. Your motto might be: "If it's not broken, don't fix it."
- Because of your lenient and complacent nature, others with fewer scruples may take advantage of you. You could, perhaps, benefit from greater assertiveness.
- You prefer a warm, friendly environment free of conflict and hostility. In that environment, you prefer reassurance of your involvement and self-worth.
- You are a good friend and are always willing to help those you consider to be your friends. You also show strong ties, and will be uncomfortable when separated from your friends for an extended period.
- Others may perceive you as being undemonstrative and self-controlled. Not wanting to be the center of attention, you generally support others.
- You have a basic need to be supportive of others. You will agree with others, sometimes even if it's not what you really want.
- You tend to be a traditionalist, and will enjoy the social environment best if it is stable and predictable. You dislike sudden decisions about where to go or what to do, preferring to think things out first.
- You show self-control in most things you do; you are not an extremist. Others may see you as stable, mature and steadfast.
- You tend to be loyal to others. Your loyalty shows in a variety of ways including your "staying power" with relationships and activities.
Communication
Each person has a unique way of communicating. We use a combination of body language, facial expression, verbal tone and word choice to share ourselves with others. The following statements offer a look at the natural behavior you bring to an interpersonal relationship.
- You tend to internalize conflict. As a result, if something about another is bothering you, you may bottle-up feelings and keep them inside.
- Others will notice that you are a sincere person about what you say and do. This trait, along with the excellent listening skills, creates an individual whom most people find pleasant to be with and a calming type of person.
- In your group, you may support the group leader rather than vie for a leadership position yourself. As a result, the group leader will usually appreciate the support you bring.
- You tend to be a good listener. Others may seek you out to share a thought or concern because of your empathic listening style.
- You are somewhat reserved in meeting new people. As a result, you could benefit from more assertive people doing the appropriate introductions to new people.
- You may be less talkative than some others, but people will generally know how you are feeling by observing many nonverbal cues.
- You have a communications style which many people are comfortable with almost immediately. You are sincere, a good listener, not pushy and overall a comfortable person to be near.
- In communicating with others, you may support the mainstream ideas rather than new trailblazing activities. You may prefer the stable and traditional activities.
Improving Communication
Many different factors determine the communication styles with which you are most comfortable. Some individuals thrive on the challenge of pointed criticism, while others are at their best in a nurturing environment where criticism is offered as a suggestion for improvement. Each of us has a unique set of requirements and preferences. Below is a list of communication styles that will mesh well with your own. Having a partner who understands and practices these traits is important to your long-term happiness.
- Give pros and cons of ideas.
- Use a tone of voice that shows sincerity.
- Have facts and ideas in a logical order.
- Provide time to analyze the data before making a decision.
- Respect quiet demeanor.
- Work to achieve mutual satisfaction.
- Use a logical and unemotional approach.
- Present ideas softly, nonthreateningly.
- Find areas of common interest and involvement.
- Be responsive toward ideas and commitments.
- Show sincere interest as a person.
Strengths
Following are some of the specific strengths and/or personal characteristics that you bring to a relationship. These may form the foundations of many of your friendships and dealings with other people. Some will seem obvious, but you may be surprised by others. Take a moment to reflect on each and consider what role it may have played in your past successes, and even failures.
- You are very sincere in actions and words.
- You don't tend to get distracted by superficial issues.
- You are generally very patient with people.
- You are good at "troubleshooting" potential problems in a relationship.
- You are excellent at listening to the concerns and ideas of others.
- You are good at helping others people to reach their goals.
- You tend to be an objective decision-maker, preferring not to let undue emotions bias your decisions.
- You tend to work hard at making sure that other people are happy.
- You are good at reconciling (i.e. you don't like to sulk after a conflict is resolved).
- You are very supportive of other people.
Needs
In general, human beings are defined by their needs and individuals by their wants. Your emotional wants are especially important when establishing with whom you are compatible. While answering the Relationship Questionnaire you established a pattern of basic, subconscious wants. This section of the report was produced by analyzing those patterns. Our wants change as we mature and obtain our life goals. You may find it valuable to revisit this section periodically to see how your wants have changed. You may want:
- An environment relatively free of conflict.
- Others to adhere to your high standards.
- To feel safe and secure in social situations.
- Time to adjust to change.
- Recognition for your loyalty.
- Freedom from pressure to perform or to act quickly without precedent.
- Frequent appreciation.
- A feeling of security.
- Recognition for your concern for quality relationships.
- Status quo.
- Better planning for change in the future.
- Time to think things over before making a commitment.